Sunday 31 December 2023

The Great Baby Debate: To Plan Or Not To Plan?

Like so many before you, you might be pondering the age-old question: to meticulously plan for kids or just go with the flow and take it as it comes. The great baby debate. Let’s unravel this puzzle together.

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“To Plan” Or “Not to Plan”: The Family Planning Dilemma

First things first, planning for kids isn’t just about picking out cute onesies and debating over names that won’t get them teased at school. It’s about financial readiness, emotional stability, and sometimes, just figuring out if you can take care of yourself, never mind responsibly raising a child. On the flip side, winging it is like improvising a recipe - sometimes you end up with a gourmet meal and other times, well, let’s just say the pizza delivery guy becomes your new best friend. The point is, there are no right or wrong answers here. Parents in both camps have raised amazing kids in the past; the question is, how will it affect you as a parent?

The Wallet Factor: Is Your Piggy Bank Ready For Diapers?

Let’s talk money, shall we? Kids are adorable, but they’re also not free. From nappies to nurseries and, eventually, brand-name clothes, the costs add up. Planning financially is like having a GPS for this journey - you might still hit traffic, but at least you won’t end up lost and broke. An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean you’re financially ruined, kids don’t grow up overnight. You have time to adjust your financial situation, but you will have to make some financial changes to accommodate your little one.

Emotional Check-in: Are You Mentally Prepared To Share Your Chocolate?

Emotional readiness is another biggie, maybe even more so than finances. It’s about more than just being ready to share your chocolate stash. It’s about handling the rollercoaster of parenting - the highs of cuddles and first words, and the lows of tantrums and teen angst. If you’re the type to wing it, remember, kids are like surprise plot twists - exciting, unpredictable, and sometimes, they make you want to read the manual. An advantage of planned parenting is that you have time to prepare emotionally for a child. In cases where you plan on falling pregnant, take the time to think forward about how you want to be as a parent, and even try future authoring. It can be a powerful tool. Some parents who’ve been through a challenging pregnancy journey, like those who opted for IVF or who’ve experienced complicated pregnancies, can often be emotionally drained when the baby arrives, so work on some tools to help you cope emotionally.

The Social Scene: Balancing Friendships, Family, And Future Offspring

This one is a straight-up fact. Your social life will change, too. Imagine juggling a social calendar that includes playdates, school meetings, and the occasional night out if you’re lucky. Winging it might mean adapting on the fly, while planning could involve scheduling your social life like a military operation. Either way, be prepared for conversations that revolve around sleep patterns and the latest cartoon characters. Having kids will certainly test your friendships, too, especially with those friends who don’t have kids. 

The Verdict: So, Should You Plan Or Wing It?

In the end, whether to plan or wing it is a personal choice, as unique as your future little human. Planning offers a sense of control in an otherwise unpredictable adventure while winging it embraces the spontaneity of life. Whatever your choice, remember, parenting is a bit like assembling flat-pack furniture - it might not always go as planned, but the end result can be wonderfully fulfilling.

As you stand at this crossroads, remember that there’s no right or wrong path. Whether you’re armed with spreadsheets and baby manuals or just a go-with-the-flow attitude, the journey to parenthood is a remarkable one.

*This is a collaborative post*


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