Wednesday, 18 November 2015

Thoughts on raising children in today's cruel world

Last weeks events in Paris have been playing on mind constantly. Not a week goes by nowadays where we aren't seeing something hideous and completely inexplainable going on in our world. I think its affected me a lot as I am about to bring another child into this world and it leaves me asking myself 'when did it all become so cruel and evil?.'

As a parent you do anything and everything in your power to love, nurture and protect your children in any way you can. I never really understood this power and need to protect somebody so much until I became a parent myself. It makes you realise what your parents did for you and what your grandparents did for them. 

At the moment I feel I am able to shelter my daughter from the terror that surrounds us but of course the older she gets the less I will be able to do that. For now she doesn't see or understand ways in which I protect her from danger and harm, she just sees the fun and laughter that we share. The same will be for my newborn. I am pleased she isn't frightened yet by what goes on around us, but i'm sure that time will come. 

I can't stop thinking about whether we are parenting differently in this day and age or whether it is the world that has changed. By that I mean that when I was growing up I don't recall being frightened or scared of anything going on. I wasn't scared of terror attacks, violence, racism, inequality or anything else that goes on. I was a child of the 80's where it was socially acceptable to be playing in the street on your own with your friends, or walking to school or the shops on your own with friends. We didn't have mobile phones then. If you were told to come home at a certain time, you just did. How did our parents cope? Were we more trusting back then or was the world genuinely a safer place? Did our parents keep us from harm in different ways? Did they have the same worries that we have now? 

I honestly don't know how any parents coped back then. I can't even bear the thought of my children playing in the street these days for fear of them being taken etc. I recently saw that a fellow blogger had cancelled a trip to Disneyland Paris after the recent events in the country. This is the type of struggles and worries we as parents face today. I feel so saddened to think we are living in our world where we don't even feel safe anywhere. I often also question whether the media has made us more worried and frightened. Perhaps we are exposed to much more now through the Internet. 

I don't know what the future holds for this world. I cant predict what dangers we may encounter. All I know is that as a family we cant live in fear and we have to live everyday to the max. All I feel I can do as a parent is to teach my children to be strong, passionate, honest and caring people. I'll teach them what is right and what is wrong. Teach them to treat everybody as equals and that diversity isn't a bad thing. I'll educate them on the world and the people in it. I'll take them on adventures. I'll always teach them to be fearless and try anything once but I'll always be close by to protect them. 

I am eternally grateful to my parents for how they brought me up. I had a fun childhood that wasn't limited by the fears that are in the world today. 

What are your thoughts? Do you feel that it is the world that has changed or is it the way we parent our children these days? Do you blame the media for the fears we face?


  1. I think it's a bit of both. The world has shrunk a lot and we are now more aware of things that are happening in other countries. Just think back to when all the news came from newspapers or the wireless. I'm sure murders were just as prevelent but you just didn't hear about it.

    I disagree that we weren't scared back in the '80's though. I remember being worried about the IRA bombing London.

    Great post. X

  2. The world isn't a good place. Although theres a lot of bad, fortunately i see a lot of good too. Stay careful and try and enjoy life as best as you can x

  3. It's so difficult isn't it when things like the weekends events in Paris happen - it really shakes you. I guess I just try to focus on the fact that I hope one day we can live in a world where we are all free from fear like this

  4. Oh I really have no words right now. I am deeply saddened by the state of our world right now. For the first time, I do feel scared, but it won't stop me doing what I had planned. Admittedly that doesn't involve a trip to Paris thank goodness. Kaz x

  5. I totally agree. When I was kid I'd be playing outside until it was dark, miles away from home and my parents were pretty happy about it, but I don't think I'd feel comfortable letting my girls do the same. It's sad isn't it and the events in Paris, Syria and other countries are just awful x

  6. This is one issue I constantly wrestle with, I don't have children and in all honesty right now, I am not sure I want them given the cruel world we live in x

  7. I don't think it was much different when we were growing up although we were allowed to wander more freely. There was always the cold war and IRA threats when I was young

  8. I don't think the world has changed, I think awareness has. We are far more aware of global issues, and people are better equipped to speak out about things. I remember growing up in the 80's too, and being scared about nuclear attack after picking up something from the TV about the Cold War. I also remember lots of terrible attacks by the IRA. My husband grew up in Northern Ireland and had a youth affected by violence. I think some of the issues are the same it's just the tactics that have changed

  9. I think the world (and us) have changed so much. My daughter is 8 and I can't shield her from any of this for much longer. Soon I'm going to have to educate her about the nasties of the world in order to help her to be aware and stay safe. It's a sad world to live in really.

  10. Being much older than you all, of a different generation, I brought my children up in the 80's and yes I was scared. My mother was scared when she let me go out to play in the 60's. I'm sure her mother was scared during the blitz in WWII in London too.

  11. Its scary isnt it. We're bringing up our children in a cruel world. Im unsure if things have changed or if its just the fact that social media and the likes accentuate it nowadays. But its all just so sad and has made me quite anxious! :(


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